Conflicts are a tricky thing. Sometimes you know what's going on on your side, but clueless about what's going on on the other side. Or there are cases whereby you are aware about what's going on on the other side, but feel lost and confused on your side. Other times, you know what is going on and both your side and the other side, but it is the other party that is unaware of what exactly is happening. It's okay if none of this makes sense. It probably means you do not have to go through much conflict (yet). Or I am being too vague, but I haven't really got the time to sit and think how to make this more understandable.

Then there is the part where you have to decide whether or not you want to solve the conflict. Is the conflict worth solving? Does it jeapordize chances of working opportunities or even good relationships? Once you've figured that out, then comes the matter of how to approach the problem. Here is where I sometimes find it frustrating. I hate conflicts. Of course, no one really likes conflicts, but I really detest it to the core. Simply because of the hassle it brings or the way people act in it. There are people who, in a conflict situation, come full force into it, trying to make things clear by debating it to the ground with their opponent, but never seem to open up their minds to a different perspective besides their own. Then there are people who pretend everything is okay, act nice and then do whatever is possible to get rid of their frustration festering inside of them without facing the problem or person they have issues with. I don't know which is worse, the one that attacks head on or the one that hides behind your back and makes faces (metaphorically speaking).

Personally, I think problems with people or things that matter really should be solved A.S.A.P. However, there are times when situations do not allow it, or the other side just wants to shut out for the moment or have nothing to do with it at all. What's left is to push it or leave it. In time perhaps, things would stand right again. We will learn something new from the event and grow.

Things might fall apart and break, but there's the option of gluing it back together or move on and get something new. What can be salvaged, we shall salvage. What cannot be fixed no matter how you try, it is better to save the effort and time.